We Need To Talk About Lindsay Clancy And The Power of White Woman Tears

At the risk of being berated, threatened, and called every name in the book, I have to talk about Lindsay Clancy.

Disclaimer, so she doesn't try to sue me, too (kidding...mostly): This is all my opinion, based on the evidence that has come out. Everything is alleged until proven in a court of law, and all that bullshit. You get the point.

Note: In the Commonwealth, where Lindsay is being tried, the defense must only create doubt in jurors’ minds as to the prosecution's claim. It is on the prosecution to prove, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that Lindsay was not insane. Keep that in mind.

She has not been formally diagnosed with PPP, and never exhibited psychosis in the times she was in the hospital, so I refuse to use that specific term without irrefutable evidence. I, instead, will use those she did receive a diagnosis for - PPD and PPA.

Stick with me, and read all the way through if you're interested in what I believe is a more honest take than many I'm seeing. It's absolutely long as hell, but I personally think it's worth it.

-Thanks💜

The Problem With This Trial

Everyone Has An Opinion, and Everyone Has A Dollar To Chase

I've pored over the evidence and gone back and forth - for years, even, since it happened January 24, 2023 - giving Lindsay Clancy the benefit of the doubt like every other person accused of a crime. However, with more evidence having been released, my personal verdict has landed on guilty, and will not change at this point. I've stood and shouted to my husband details of the entire trial - probably much to his chagrin, but he's an amazing sport - offering him important information that could make the judgment go either way. At one point, I was pretty convinced she was absolutely experiencing psychosis.

In the last several days of the trial, however, I've become convinced of the opposite. I don't think she was in a 'moment of psychosis' when she murdered her kids. I think Lindsay is narcissistic, and no one wants to admit that women can be cold and callous to children, just as men can.

I'll Be Blunt.

I'm quite honestly tired of The Lindsay Show being the only one that matters. We have lost the entire plot here, as well as what truly matters most - nay, who matters most - those 3 beautiful children, Cora, Callan, and Dawson, whose lives were snuffed out by the hands of their own mother, regardless of reason.

TikTokers, Redditors, Threaders, and other social media ghouls, attempting to profit from the suffering of others, are tearing at the throats of everyone involved in this case, save for one key person - Lindsay, herself.

I do have to give it to her; She's a good manipulator and a pretty little wannabe poster child for PPD/PPA, droning on endlessly about the system that failed her - forgetting to mention she had much more access and wealth than most, and lamenting about needing help while simultaneously refusing treatment.

She's gotten the attention of the world because she's wealthy and white, claiming to have been done horribly, horribly wrong by the mental health system, as a whole, but especially by the specific women doctors treating her. I do think the healthcare system at its core is highly flawed, and mental health, in particular, lacks full comprehension and acceptance. In this situation, though, I'm not sure there was much more doctors could do without crossing boundaries around her legal rights.

I have struggled immensely with this case, and I've been terrified to write what I think because women - especially white women - have been viciously defending her and painting anyone who rejects her insanity defense as anti-woman and ignorant. I have to disagree wholeheartedly. I actually think it's anti-woman to infantilize, coddle, and support her white woman tears despite evidence showing her callousness and cruelty - especially in regards to her oldest son, which I will go over later - if I am being perfectly honest.

Rather than bothering to take five extra minutes to fact-check, social media darlings have adhered to the sensationalized misinformation in this particular case, spreading it as far as the ocean is wide, as if it were a fact as plain as day. So, this trial became a witch hunt, just like the Moscow, Idaho murders have. Both of these highly publicized tragedies happened years ago now, and we still have Youtuber after Youtuber, influencer after influencer, spreading absolute nonsense about them, attacking family members and grieving processes without bothering to wonder how it might make them feel to read something so awful if they were them.

Then again, they don't care.

Let me remind you of the THREE INNOCENT CHILDREN who are DEAD.

They are gone. FOREVER.

They "don't matter anymore" because they're already dead.

They "don't matter anymore because they're DEAD?"

This is the way they all sound - callous and cold-hearted. I genuinely couldn't believe what I was reading when I saw this response. I had to go back and reread a few times to make sure it actually said what I thought it did. That comment, in particular, was pretty devastating to read...

Children. Dead, so the point is moot when it comes to protecting the victims. No mention of the father, the grandparents, the cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, coworkers - all of which were victims of this tragedy in some way - unless it's to blame them, of course. These murders affected everyone around them, not just the children, and not just their father, Patrick.

And look at the like ratio for the original post, which accused Patrick of killing them. People online with no connection to the case in any shape, form, or fashion are convinced her husband set her up and tried to kill her, but didn't account for lifesaving measures thwarting it. Hasn't anyone ever heard the saying "the simplest answer is usually the right one?" This isn't a fucking play. It's not a movie, it's not a show. It's a goddamn trial for a woman who killed her 3. Innocent. Kids.

I'm so damn tired of the show of it all!

What Does The Evidence Tell Us?

It's Not As Complicated As The Defense Would Like You To Believe

The details of this case, the true details, not internet sensationalism, do not add up to 'poor Lindsay.' They simply don't. Everyone is being blamed, but Lindsay, when she herself wrote about being thankful for Patrick because he was taking care of the kids when she couldn't, even taking them out across country to do things to give her a break.

Yet, internet sleuths have been absolutely determined to conjecture against Patrick, calling him a lazy and negligent father, despite there being no evidence to support their theories. Patrick has come under fire simply for finding love again with a woman after his children passed, and he married just this year. I know TikTok said so, but he did not appear to have an affair, and he definitely did not marry again 4 months later. He just remarried in April 2026 - this year.

Let's Talk About The Medications

Lindsay supposedly obsessively tracked her medications, carefully writing down each pill she took and at what time. When you look at these lists, though, you start to notice she didn't want to take the medications approved for depression or for the bipolar disorder a Nurse Practitioner thought she had - she wanted benzodiazepines. Ativan, to be exact.

She even lamented about her fears of becoming addicted, wondered whether she already had, yet continued to ask her doctors for more when she couldn't be bothered to try the other medications for the several weeks it takes them to work.

This woman was a nurse. She would know better than to expect psychiatric medications, in particular, to affect her mood immediately. She'd already taken Prozac for about a year in nursing school with no ill effects. Doctors are also very open about the titration period, letting patients know the first few weeks may be really rough, but that they should typically start seeing results within about 4 to 6 weeks. Some could notice improvement in as little as 1 to 2, but again, Lindsay didn't even stay on most of these medications longer than 5 days.

In her phone notes, Clancy spoke of her troubles with motherhood, describing sleep training and precociousness in long-winded soliloquys that read more like a memoir than her actual thoughts and feelings in the moment. It's almost as if she were telling someone in the future about her life, knowing she would no longer be there - like she knew someone would read them one day.

These notes Lindsay started writing were during the months she says she was "changed by medication," and slipped deeper into depression and then psychosis, but she was searching for things like "can you turn the airbags off in a kia sorrento?" in the weeks before the murders. How can she have had a "moment of psychosis" if she was already forming a plan well before that day?

Sure, she had bounced from medication to medication, largely because she refused everything offered by her team of psychiatric doctors, or claimed to have awful side effects from the medications within a day or so of starting them, wanting to stop them immediately. I think her practitioners were doing as much as they thought they could, and became frustrated when she deviated from the plans laid out for her.

She was never on more than 3 to 4 medications at a time, and I think that is incredibly important. Psychiatric medications are a lot of trial and error at this point in medicine, and if you have barely started, say, one SSRI, you often don't need to taper down to swap to a different SSRI. I have done this multiple times while trying to find the right "cocktail" that works for my various conditions, including severe OCD that is highly debilitating without treatment.

Clancy's doctors offered her the proverbial kitchen sink, but she only took a glass of water. She wasn't compliant, was hesitant to take any new medications unless it was one she approved of, - cough benzos cough - and seemed to demand an experience that doesn't really exist with psychiatric conditions - immediate relief.

So, it seems to me, her doctors modified their treatment plans to what Lindsay was more likely to comply with. This is not unheard of, in the least.

For example, in veterinary medicine, veterinarians will offer to clients what they think the client will actually agree to. This means, simply put, veterinarians use how you care for your pets (whether you refuse or accept the recommended routine bloodwork, prevention, or otherwise) currently to tailor their future treatment plans to your budget, knowledge, fears, or whatever else has you debating - whether that's for testing or treatment.

When it comes to treating mental health conditions, doctors are forced to essentially diagnose based on what their patients tell them, as well as the behaviors they observe in appointments. Blood tests will show abnormalities like elevated white blood cells, indicating an infection is somewhere in the body, but struggles with mental health can be much harder to diagnose and treat. It takes time, trial and error, and I think that has become lost on laypersons tuning in to this trial.

Clancy genuinely had everything she needed to get help if she'd truly wanted it, but it seems to me she just expected to have 3 kids and still have a certain amount of time alone to decompress or rest. She wanted alone time with her husband, too, time for them to really connect on a personal level again. She wanted so many things that were nearly impossible once she had several small children.

I also have to ask, while Lindsay is starring in her own mess, where was concern for Patrick's mental health in all of this? Was he overwhelmed, too, but doing his best? Was he struggling to keep everyone happy and foot the bills while Lindsay did whatever she needed to get better? Who knows for sure? All we ever hear about is Lindsay, Lindsay, Lindsay.

I think Patrick knows deep down she wasn't insane when she killed their children - suspiciously, while he went to both CVS for Cora's Dulcolax and to get the dinner she had searched up, mapped out, and ordered - but I think he'd rather go his whole life not knowing or confirming it to be true. He essentially said as much in a 2024 interview with the New Yorker.

This mother of three, now 35 years old, wanted to 'pour into herself' each morning for an hour and a half, and get a solid 8 hours of sleep each night. Most mothers don't ever get that, especially in the first several months after a new baby arrives, and she had multiple people willing to watch her children, including both sets of grandparents, a gym daycare, and Patrick himself.

What did she expect? Sunshine, rainbows, and perfect little children she never had to discipline or work through problems with? She spoke in her private writings about how difficult her second child, Dawson, was. He was a toddler, barely old enough to get around in the world without taking a tumble every few steps, giving him limited ability to run, but the spunk and go-getter attitude to do it anyway.

She chose to get pregnant 3 times. She even wrote about still wanting a fourth! She chose not to comply with her doctors' suggestions and prescriptions. She chose to pick and choose the medications she took. She chose to tell specific people specific things and kept everyone around her at arms' length so no one could see any imperfections in her parenting. She chose to get Patrick out of the house, and she chose to kill those kids, brutally and systematically, before attempting to kill herself.

There, I said it.

She chose to kill them. I wholeheartedly believe that she wrote a suicide note/manifesto blaming mental health and did not expect to live to face the consequences. I think she searched about treating a sociopath because she saw and felt something in herself that pulled her in that direction. She didn't search for ways to ease anxiety while working away from kids, nor did she ask Google about getting back to nursing while mentally ill. No, she searched for "Can you treat a sociopath?"

I think that distinction is important.

Note: She did code twice, but they performed CPR to get her heart beating each time, successfully resuscitating her on both occasions. Lindsay asked for a DNR, but a doctor would not allow her to change her status while actively suicidal.

Thankfully for the prosecution, I believe Lindsay left several holes in her plot, including leaving these performative messages and broaching the topic of Andrea Yates to a coworker. It's all just a little too 'on the nose' for me, and it's all coming up roses for Lindsay - at least, in her mind. She is 'hopeful for the future,' now, after all.

So, What About Her Medical Care?

Was She Failed, Did She Fail Herself, or Both?

This case is setting a dangerous precedent for mental health going forward in a climate that already stigmatizes medication. Could things be better in health care? Oh, hell yes. I could go on forever about it. However, Lindsay's doctors treated her, with the evidence they had, as she, I believe, manipulated them & purposely left out information.

I think the system itself needs work. I think health care in the United States, in general, needs a lot of work. As a very chronically ill person, I know more than most just how bad the system itself can be.

However, I want to be clear. Her doctors were doing their best to follow the standard of care in their practice. A patient who refuses to accept the possibility that she's Bipolar, as well as one who has no problem taking Benzodiazepines, getting a Covid and flu shot, or even Benadryl every night with the risks associated, but is scared of a medication she had already responded well to in the past (Prozac), strikes me more as a patient who will hide information or manipulate to get what she wants than one who truly wants help.

Were they supposed to read her mind? Commit her? It would have been damned if they did, either way. That's the reality of mental health care, as unfortunate as it may be. It tends to depend on an honest patient, & with mentally ill patients, oftentimes that is not the case.

So, maybe her doctors failed her in one big way - they failed to see her manipulation tactics, I think, because she was a competent labor and delivery nurse. I don't think they were negligent or at fault for what happened to these kids.

I think what her doctors are probably guilty of is blindly trusting her word because she was a registered labor and delivery nurse who, in their minds, should have been an ideal patient when it comes to being honest about tracking symptoms, medications, etc. I think they trusted that her profession made her a good, honest, compliant patient, and it may have even been the opposite. Her profession could have given her tunnel vision, which didn't help her, either. But at the end of the day, Lindsay is still responsible for Lindsay. She is responsible for alerting her doctors to her true thoughts and symptoms so she can receive the right kind of help.

I think it's very possible that Lindsay was too obsessed with being perfect and keeping up appearances to let anyone know that she was resenting her children and rethinking their births. I think it's also possible she didn't have hallucinations or intrusive thoughts, but homicidal ones, instead, prompting her searches.

If she really wanted help, she would have had herself committed indefinitely, away from her children, for as long as necessary to get the right diagnoses and regimen of medications. If she really wanted help, she would have relented and allowed Patrick's parents to watch the children so she could take a break. So what if she "was anxious" about them being there? She could have sent Patrick along. She could have had the whole house to herself to rest and recover. She even did, at times, yet the voices waited until the day she methodically planned for her husband to leave the home just long enough for him to come find the children and his wife gone?

She didn't do any of that.

She wrote about her "dark thoughts" in her journals and phone notes, lamented about how miserable she was, pestered her doctors with needless medication changes without giving them time to work, picked and chose medications she was okay with, and those she was not, and she edited a note she titled like a manifesto -
Medication Stole My Motherhood and My Life - within 24 hours of the murders.

Where is the accountability? Where is the effort, the work, the actual will to make things better for herself?

She was coddled by everyone around her - even by the doctors, at times. She was able to use their personal cell numbers, and they were texting her, even on weekends. Patrick was taking the kids out for fun events without her, letting her relax when she needed. He even took Cora skiing. She had 2 daycares at her disposal, a nanny, a husband who started working from home to help, and 2 sets of grandparents offering to help, yet being refused.

There was no "everyone failed Lindsay." Lindsay failed everyone else, and most of all, Cora, Callan, and Dawson.

So, What Did Lindsay, Herself, Say?

Lindsay maintains - since she hired a lawyer and has struck up a conflict of interest with a provider whom the plaintiff has seen multiple times since the murders - that she heard auditory hallucinations telling her it was her last chance to kill her kids and herself.

It sure is mighty convenient for her, isn't it?

The damsel in distress is left alone to fend for herself and her children while the husband goes to pick up their meal. Immediately after Patrick left, Lindsay got to work, systematically strangling each of her tiny children to death.

Lindsay has nothing to say about why she hurt Dawson with more anger and intensity, nothing to say about why she didn't stay in treatment, nothing to say about why she wasn't truthful with her doctors, nothing to say at all, unless it's about Lindsay.​

The family seems to cater to this woman's whims, provide anything possible to aid her, then sprint to her rescue like it were the marathon Lindsay ran just a few weeks postpartum.

What I want to know is why she is punishing the very people who did anything she asked of them until it bit them in the ass. I want to know why, as a nurse, she feels compelled to sue and potentially ruin careers of women who accomplished becoming a doctor and get a fraction of the respect they deserve.

She knows all of this. She just doesn't care because it's not in Lindsay's interest.

The 'Secret' Notes

As mentioned above, Lindsay was writing more than speaking. She was entering long notes into her phone storage, filing them away as if she knew she'd need them later.

She was titling these little notes like stories, almost like she wanted them to be read when she was no longer there to explain them to those she claimed to love. I'm not sure Lindsay has the capacity to love, to be quite blunt.

To be fully open to help, a patient has to take what their doctors tell them seriously, and work with them rather than against them. As a nurse, she'd have known every last bit of this. She'd also know precisely what to say if she really thought she needed commitment. She failed to protect her children because she didn't want to. They were the problem to her.

The Other Side of The Coin

"But Why Did You Have To Bring Race Into It!?"

Hush. I'm getting there.

Coincidentally enough, there is actually a similar case that played out in the same courtroom, with the same exact judge Lindsay now faces. However, that case played out a lot differently, with a lot less attention. We all know why.

Latarsha Sanders is a mother with schizophrenia - unfortunately, diagnosed too late - who also killed her children. Her two sons, Edson "Marlon" Brito, 8, and La'son Brito, 5, were killed in what police have called a "ritualistic" practice, supposedly indicative of the VooDoo rituals. The judge - again, the same judge presiding over Lindsay's case - refused to allow thousands of pages of evidence and documented bizarre behaviors exhibited by the defendant. She was sentenced to life imprisonment in 2022 - December 28th, 2022.

Lindsay murdered her children less than one month later.

Does Lindsay's case sound so similar to you that they should be given the same fair treatment?

If so, there's one detail I left out. Latarsha Sanders -

Is Black.

Now, does it sound so similar to you that it's almost like a white woman is taking the real mental illness of a Black mother and whitewashing it to suit her own life?

Maybe that's too big of a reach, but what if it's not?

Lindsay could have pleaded guilty at any time to end this whole trial - BOOM. Just like that. She still can. This trial is happening solely because Lindsay refused to plead guilty. That's it.

Why hasn't she, if she "can't do this anymore?"

Then don't, Lindsay. Don't do it anymore.

She could spare everyone the entire dramatic show she's acting out with her lawyer. She could have spared her husband the trauma of listening to and seeing the worst day of his life replay for millions all over the world to see.

But she didn't.

I think the truth about Lindsay may just be darker than anyone is willing to see. I think the truth about Lindsay, at her core, is that she has narcissistic tendencies - not to be confused with a diagnosis, but to illustrate she was very focused on herself and how her parenting looked or measured up to those around her. She struggled to tell the truth to her doctors, nurses, and family out of what appears to be shame. I think the truth is...

Some moms just kill their kids for selfish reasons-

-and I think Lindsay is one of them.

I think Lindsay wanted to die, but didn't want to leave her 3 children with anyone else, even Patrick and his family. I think she was too prideful in her own little version of motherhood that she led everyone to believe was real, and maybe she couldn't handle people getting close enough to realize her and the kids' lives weren't perfect, or allow another woman to be in their lives if she were gone. I have my suspicions that Lindsay was a control freak and couldn't handle trusting anyone else to parent the kids, but wanted to complain about no one helping.

There are things I just cannot reconcile, like her heart rate surrounding the times of the murders, with her explanation of psychosis. She was cool as a cucumber once she 'dealt with her problem.' If she were experiencing some episode of psychosis, wouldn't she be hyped up on adrenaline, something? But she was just...calm...while murdering them one at a time as soon as Patrick left.

Today's witness was grilled by the Commonwealth for taking notes with direct quotes, yet somehow forgetting to mention those voices she claims Lindsay was hearing. I'm sick and tired of this woman parading around like this is a high school theater assignment. She stole the lives of her 3 innocent children because she couldn't handle all her responsibilities anymore. Those kids were collateral damage to her, for the greater good of Lindsay.

Why I Feel Uniquely Close To This Case

And Admittedly, Therefore, Emotionally

What I am just now learning through this trial and my research is that I also exhibited OCD-type psychosis symptoms with postpartum depression after I had my daughter. She could have been me, or I she. But I think there's a glaring difference. Lindsay did not want to be well, at least not enough to do what was actually best for her children - step away from keeping up with the Joneses and commit to actual help long enough to see improvement. She wanted people to think she just wanted to be well. I personally believe Lindsay had a vision of what motherhood would be like for her, and was frustrated when she didn't get it; that it was harder than she expected.

To that, I say: tough shit for Lindsay. She worked in labor and delivery. She had to know more about these conditions than she was letting on, and would have to know true postpartum psychosis would be quite rare.

My time postpartum with my daughter is part of why I didn't have more children. I didn't think it would be fair to that child to possibly subject them to having the illnesses I now am diagnosed with, and my daughter was born with Autism and ADHD, as well as likely POTS & hEDS inherited from me. I feel awful enough having unknowingly subjected her to any of it at all.

In The End...

No mother who is remorseful about murdering her children would use the same color exercise band as one she used on her kids weeks after. No mother who is remorseful laments about the possibility of never walking again the first chance she got to speak.

I am absolutely disgusted by the rabid support given to a wealthy white woman so quickly and viciously, without anyone ever observing what Lindsay herself was saying. This last witness was not even saying anything new. That information was already out there, but no one bothered to look for it, likely because there were over 800 pages of documents. I personally just wanted to know the truth, so I kept digging into the court filings rather than taking someone's word at face value.

TikTok, and social media, in general, have become a vessel for mis- and dis-information galore, where no one is forced to fact check and anyone can say and post just about whatever the hell they want, as long as they add a little disclaimer. This has hurt so many families of victims, including those in the Clancy case, and it's going to push someone over the edge one day. It's going to break someone mentally to suicide, and it will be the fault of Instamoms and influencer-wannabes who essentially profit from murder.

If you truly want to support women with postpartum mental illnesses, support Latarsha Sanders, and please, check your privilege & whiteness for a second to understand that you fell for a white woman's tears while a mentally ill Black woman was sentenced just 1 month earlier in the same exact court with the same exact judge.

Lindsay is just a female Chris Watts, and those white woman tears are getting her everything she wants.

Please support Latarsha Sanders. She needs to be in a psychiatric ward, not just thrown into prison.

As always, thanks for reading, and I hope you enjoyed it. I know it's a bit different from my norm, but this case has taken over everything lately, and I really needed to get my thoughts out. Again, I will not tolerate bullying, harassment, or snarky-ass comments.

💜Cammy